- Who is a good friend?
- How To Make Friends at School.
- How Do You Make Friends If you are shy?
One of the most important decisions you’re going to make in life is learning how to make friends with the right people.
Who is a good friend?
A good friend is someone who respects you, and your decision and is never afraid to tell you the truth in love.
A bad friend has the power to alter our lives and God’s plan as well. Learning how to make friends is not an emotional decision.
You need a good dose of patience, alertness, and lots of prayers as well. (I can’t write otherwise)
If you’re choosing your friends based on popularity, wealth, or online following, then you are in for a rude shock.
Because you’re going to become somebody’s object of manipulation.
Nobody is perfect but there are non-negotiables to look out for when choosing your friends.
How To Make Friends at School.
First, you have to fix yourself mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.
Before inviting someone into your world you’ve got to get your self-esteem in check and any areas of your life you might be struggling.
Why?🤷♀️Because if you don’t know how to treat yourself with respect, love, and forgiveness.
You’re going to bring toxicity to that relationship and attract one as well. You’re also going to expect them to be your ‘everything’. FYI (nobody can)
I love the analogy of creation from the Bible. Before God created man He had to fix everything that man would need in the garden before creating humans.
It would have been a disaster if people were created in a world filled with darkness and no form.
Having a good relationship with yourself would be a good place to start.
If you cannot forgive yourself when you mess up, then it will be difficult to accept the forgiveness of others.
Let’s move on!
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1. Watch, pray, and learn:
Please, don’t make friends at school because you’re bored.
Neither should you choose a friend because you complete each other’s sentences.
The lame reason why he/she might like you is that you’re both great at maths or homework in general.
Watch the person’s behavior from afar.
Is he/she respectful to authority, intelligent, appreciative of other people’s achievement, God-fearing, and humble because humility is not a facial expression?
Or does she put other people down just to feel great about herself?
Then ask yourself would you be proud to introduce her to other people.
Or are we just using each other? A.K.A ‘friends with benefits
The reason I added prayer to the list is that we don’t know people as much as our creator does.
God can reveal the intent of a person’s heart to you. We are much more than our surface appearances.
Good manners are also not a good enough reason to choose a friend at school.
To get this right, you need to have a personal relationship with God.
Ever heard of the proverb, “Show me your friend and I will tell you who you are”.
Pray and ask God to choose for you and you will never regret it.
2. How do you feel being around them?
Can you freely express yourself without guilt? If your opinion doesn’t count, or you’re always reminded about your mistakes then Run!
3. Is he/she trustworthy:
I’m not asking you to go tell all your business to her. But if she is in the habit of using private matters as illustrations in her conversations then run🏃♂️.
Also, if she always wants to know everything about you but cringe when you ask about her family. Then something isn’t right.
We all need someone who can be honest with us. The aim is to find someone who is not afraid to tell you as it is but in love.
5. Happy about your success:
Before you give your stamp of approval, watch, is she genuinely happy about your success?
Are you comfortable sharing your wins 🏆with her? If you are comfortable that is not the right person for you.
How Do You Make Friends If you are shy?
“.A man who has friends must himself be friendly, But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.”
1. Be Kind:
Show concern and help out if you can. Be ready to serve. Come out of your comfort zone.
Offering to give your time to others will help you observe people’s behavior up close and make better decisions if you want to be friends with them in the long run.
2. Be a good listener:
Listen to hear what the other person has to say and not giving unsolicited advice will be appreciated.
By listening, God reveals to you the intent of other people’s hearts as well. If someone shows you who they are for the first time believe them.
Is she a gossip, a lifter, or a dream killer?
One of the books that have helped me when trying to build friendships and engage with people is How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie
One of YouTube’s multiple six-figure successful creators Sean Carnell in one of his videos talked about how this book helped him build a loyal YouTube subscriber.
3. Accept invitations to hang out:
Only hang out in places you are comfortable with. Don’t be a people pleaser and go someplace that abuses your moral compass.
4. Take part in school activities
If you intend to be successful in life, or you want an environment that nurtures your growth. Then choose the right friends at school.