The importance of reading good Christian dating books cannot be underlined enough.
There are many books on dating, but I’ll start by debunking the myth about being single before moving on to Christian dating books.
Roll the drums please 🥁🥁🥁. The first book on my list is
1. Keys For Living Single by Dr.Myles Monroe
The word “singleness” is frequently associated with being trapped or held in servitude while making marriage the ultimate goal.
The author, Dr. Myles Monroe, makes it abundantly clear that if we enter a relationship looking for someone to complete us, we will be unhappy for the rest of our lives, which is why I chose this book.
The first thing that comes to mind when I hear someone refer to their partner as my better half is, “I hope this person knows their identity in Christ.”
God never made incomplete people; rather, he made complete people in the likeness of himself, with different tasks to accomplish individually.
This book of inspiring quotes from Dr. Myles Monroe reveals the gray areas of singleness and how to become whole.
It is important to note that a healthy relationship consists of two whole people.
He also talked about the importance of first discovering our purpose, which can only be done when we have a real, authentic relationship with God.
How to Build A Relationship with God
2. Singles with a Difference by Pastor Faith Oyedepo
This book breaks down the different aspects we need to develop as single people that would set us apart from the rest.
Being insufficiently prepared for the future we want is one of the harms we cause to ourselves when we are single.
This book highlights areas of handling finances, family, societal, and peer pressure. The level of planning we do before getting married will determine how happy and fulfilling our marriage will be.
3. Wholeness by Toure Roberts
International thought leader and pastor Toure Roberts, explains how to remove the invisible barriers that keep us from reaching God’s best.
We all come from different families, with different experiences, and our journey through life has left scars that if not addressed before bringing other people into our lives,
Can disrupt us from giving our best to whatever God has called us to do. I highly recommend that everyone reads this book if they truly desire wholeness.
Now that we’ve learned how to be single and happy, let’s move on to succeeding in the dating phase.
Christian dating books
4. Secrets of an Irresistible Woman by Michelle McKinney Hammond
The author discusses the pitfalls to avoid in a relationship using her personal experience and biblical principles.
She explains the issue surrounding submission and how it is supposed to be done the way God intended.
Especially for women who go into a romantic relationship with a distorted view of submission.
The advice given in the book differs from what is typically accepted in popular culture today.
In one of the chapters of the book, Michelle explains how to deal with the spirit of lust. If you meet a guy in a mall for the first time,
Instead of harming yourself with the idea of the two of you being happy together forever or stalking his every move on social media.
It’s best to put him in the mall behind you and move on with your life. God is the ideal matchmaker,
and if he wants the two of you to be together, he knows how to make it happen without your assistance.
This self-help relationship book has other great tips that can help you begin and succeed in dating.
My third choice for the top Christian book on dating is one that I adore and would enthusiastically suggest at any time.
5. 7 Questions Wise Women Ask by Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo
As a marriage counselor for over 20 years, Pastor Kingsley highlights some of the questions a woman is supposed to ask in a relationship.
The first question to ask a guy who says, “I want to marry you,” is “Why me, and when do you want to tie the knot?” Because marriage can mean different things to different people.
Some men only desire marriage because they are bored, feel pressure from their friends, or simply desire a good cook. But we know marriage is much more than that.
Another question a wise woman should also ask is are we compatible? Not sexually but mentally and spiritually.
These are only a few of the seven questions a woman must ask before she is deeply emotionally invested in that relationship.
If you read and follow the steps in this book you can be assured 100% that you won’t be crying over a heartbreak or a broken marriage.
6. How to Know if he/she Really Loves you by Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo
Just because we feel butterflies in our tummies towards a guy doesn’t make it real love. Some people have made mistakes as a result of “love at first sight.”
A fake and real love ❤️ always look the same at the initial stage but fails with time.
People put on their best behavior when dating or being courted, so it is better to know whether the relationship is in its right state or not.
This book is in two parts. One for the male and the other side for the female. If you’re still in doubt that the person you are dating loves you, this book is the perfect guide that will give you clarity with references from the Bible.
7. Relationship Goals by Pastor Mike Todd
Anyone who knows Pastor Mike and Ashley Todd knows they like to tell it as it is.
The book Relationship Goals was born out of the mistakes he made trying to figure out what God’s original plan about relationships was.
According to Pastor Mike, the only relationship advice he got in the church was “don’t have sex until you are married” without the practical steps on how to deal with sexual temptation later in life.
This book uncovers how dating should be done according to God’s standards for relationships.
The book also highlights God’s ideas about sex, and how to break soul ties formed during premarital sex.
It is wonderful that it prepares singles for marriage. It outlines the variations in needs between men and women.
This is a great book if you hope to get married and have a great married life.
8. Dating: A Biblical Guide by Faith Oyedepo
Her solid, biblical teachings on marriage, singleness, and life are wonderful. Having been happily married for 40 years, she knows how challenging Christian dating can be.
In this book, Pastor Faith Oyedepo breaks down scripturally how to do dating the right way.
Even if the word “dating” wasn’t mentioned in the Bible, dating is the time to build friendships and learn how a relationship with the opposite sex works.
The book provides answers to issues that are frequently underexamined and sparsely covered in some churches. Some of these questions include:
Who can I date?
What age is appropriate for dating?
Can we move in together?
How do I choose who to marry, especially when I have a lot of potential partners? etc Not to let the cat out of the bag, you’ll need to read it to learn all about it.
9. Boundaries in Dating by Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend
Is dating biblical, dead, or should we say goodbye to it? These are some of the questions addressed in this book.
The reason some people shy away from dating is that they don’t know the role of dating and their roles and they are not properly guided.
Dating is not for mating but for collecting data.
Boundaries in this context aren’t just about bodily harm, but not losing your uniqueness and who God has called you to be in this world.
This book, which has a 5-star rating, debunks the myths surrounding dating as well as the roles that people play.
Your library this year needs to include this self-help book on relationships.
