Nobody taught me in high school and I had to learn the hard way, but these are some of the best high school dating advice.
First, there’s no shade if you desire to have a significant other because we were created to love and be loved in return.
However, it turns into a bad thing when our desperation compels us to sacrifice our manners in the name of love. People will take advantage of you when they sense your desperation.
Is It Ok to Start Dating In High School?
Before you click off hear me out! Based on personal experience I would say it is not okay to start dating in high school because you are still discovering who you are.
There is something in our minds that makes us believe that we have figured out how dating in high school works. However, I can say with absolute certainty that there are still aspects of you
That demands a certain level of moral character as well as emotional, intellectual, spiritual, and financial maturity. We both know this. I know I sound like someone’s mother.
Let me be the first to admit that dating while in high school can be stressful and distracting. You are dividing your time and attention between studying and making plans for dates.
I know people who thought that they had found the love of their lives and after leaving high school they are glad that the relationship didn’t work out.
“We would just hold hands and take a walk.” You might think
That sounds like a plan until you realize that holding hands is not enough and you want to try something new. This in turn could lead to kissing and sex. We’re not as strong as we often claim to be.
Do you mind if I ask you a few questions and you respond with some truthful answers?
“Why do you want to date?”
“Are you always unhappy each time valentine draws near?”
“Are you unhappy because you’re the only one in your circle without a partner?”
“Lastly, do you even like who you see in the mirror every day?”
If you can’t answer these questions without stuttering or feeling attacked. Then dating in high school is not what you need.
You need to focus on choosing to love yourself regardless of what anyone else thinks.
Does Dating In High School Last?
The likelihood is one in ten, and seasons also change. You may feel as though dating is all you need at one point, but you’ll soon come to the realization that you also need to put yourself first.
Years from now, you’ll be glad you avoided dating that person. The benefit of maturing is that what used to be important in determining your ideal mate changes.
Don’t beat yourself up about finding a partner in high school or being bothered that nobody is asking you out on a date. You won’t have to beg anyone to take you out when the time is right.
You have to be okay with the fact that high school is not the time or place for that.
“But it feels like such a long time.”😥😭
It is not, and I bet you that was exactly how I felt over 15 years ago. If you don’t develop self-control at this young age, you won’t be kind to yourself in other areas of your life besides relationships.
Always keep in mind that good things come to those who wait and not to those who measure themselves against others. I want to remind you that there is nothing wrong with how you look.
Is Dating In High School Good Or Bad?
I have seen more bad things than good with dating in high school. Aside from it being distracting, you are likely dating someone who has no moral compass.
If you don’t feel good about yourself, you’ll eventually find yourself having sex even though you know it’s wrong to appease your partner.
From having sex to taking birth control pills, this same person would eventually find someone he considers better than you.
What Is a Good Age To Start Dating?
I won’t give anyone a particular age bracket because there are 16- and 18-year-olds who still act like kids. I would say give yourself time to finish high school and maybe college
It is more important to have a healthy relationship than how quickly you can find a date. If your goal is just waiting to get to college to find a mate,
Then you’ll be putting your life and joy on hold. What! 😲😲There’s more to life than just waiting for a date.
High School Dating Tips
If you are already dating, these are the best high school dating tips you must know today.
1. Know your values
When you don’t have good morals you are only attracted to your partner for their looks or what they have to offer in other areas. Know what your likes and dislikes are and stay true to them.
2. Let God In
I know culture tells you otherwise but the scriptures say, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He would direct your path.” Proverbs 3:5-6
God has saved me many times from false relationships because I asked for his help. I always pray a simple prayer, “Lord please show me who this person really is.”
Within a short time, the true nature of that person will begin to show in different situations. It shows up how they treat me when I make a mistake and how they react when I succeed at something.
3. Tell your parents about it.
Whatever is done in secrecy always has a bad end. It is also for your safety. There are things an adult sees and knows that we might not get at first. There are questions your partner would be asked that would tell if the person is right for you.
4. Get Accountability
There should be someone who would be able to hold you accountable especially when they see something wrong. A person who would hold you to the values that you have.
5. Stop having sex with your partner
You won’t be able to see a person as they really are when you keep having sex. You would keep making excuses for their bad conduct because you are afraid of leaving behind the piece of you they already have. Be careful.
Let me know your experiences with high school dating in the comment section.