Okay, okay, so you’re probably thinking “Wait, what?! No sex before marriage?!”
Well, you heard right! If you want to make smart choices and set yourself up for long-term happiness, committing to no sex before marriage isn’t just the smart thing to do — it’s the necessary thing to do.
Now, before you start rolling your eyes at me and write me off as some prudish old-timer who has no idea of what goes on in this day and age, hear me out!
If you think about it, there are plenty of reasons why it pays off to abstain from sex until marriage. In this blog post, I’m going to be talking about all those reasons, and more.
So if you’re a wild child at heart who’s had some trouble staying in line when it comes to relationships and sex, don’t worry—we’ve got your back! We’ll show you that making smart choices doesn’t have to mean giving up all of your fun. So let’s get into it!
Is it good to stop having sex before a marriage?
Is abstaining from sex before marriage the right thing to do? Let’s be real — it’s totally up to you and your partner, but if you’re considering setting up the right foundation of trust in your relationship.
What most people don’t know is that having sex before marriage is grooming an adulterer in the making. Guys like to do the chase but when you just give yourself freely away he will move on to someone else.
Here are some things to think about.
First off, everyone gets sweaty palms, butterflies, and a desire to get physical with their special someone. But before you jump into bed (or even onto the couch!), keep in mind that abstinence can help build trust between partners as well as give you both time to get to know each other on a deeper level.
Also, avoiding sex before marriage can also help protect against sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) and unplanned pregnancies.
Plus, it can create an environment where the intimacy of the relationship is based more on emotional, spiritual, and intellectual connection than physical attraction — which makes for a very powerful bond when the big day finally comes!
Ultimately, it’s up to you and your partner to decide whether or not abstaining from sex before marriage is right for your relationship.
But one thing is certain: if you decide not to have sex before tying the knot — or even if you just choose to wait and see how things progress — you may find yourself rewarded with an even brighter future down the line.
What to do if I had sex before marriage?
It happens. You don’t want it to, but maybe you did. And now you’re sitting there wondering what to do next. Before you panic and start asking if there’s a return policy on virginity, just chill – everything will be alright.
The first thing is to take responsibility for your actions and make things right with God first so that you can break any soul-tie connection you’ve made with the person you slept with. A soul tie is no joke.
Why do you think a few weeks or months after sex you begin to put up mannerisms that aren’t yours and it shocks you sometimes.
That’s because sex is an exchange of spirits. You’re ultimately saying yes to every baggage that comes with the person and vice versa.
The bottom line is that life happens and mistakes can be made, but there are always ways to move forward in a positive direction.
It’s all about acknowledging the gravity of the situation and making smart choices going forward – which is exactly why we’re having this conversation in the first place!
What does God say about sex before marriage?
It’s no secret that God has an opinion on sex before marriage, but let’s take a moment to break it down. In the Old Testament of the Bible, you’ll find dozens of scripture verses about waiting until marriage for sex.
One of the clinchers is found in 1 Corinthians 6:16-20 the Message Bible Translation, which states:
“There’s more to sex than mere skin on skin. Sex is as much spiritual mystery as physical fact. As written in Scripture, “The two become one.” Since we want to become spiritually one with the Master, we must not pursue the kind of sex that avoids commitment and intimacy, leaving us more lonely than ever—the kind of sex that can never “become one.”
There is a sense in which sexual sins are different from all others. In sexual sin we violate the sacredness of our own bodies, these bodies that were made for God-given and God-modeled love, for “becoming one” with another. Or didn’t you realize that your body is a sacred place, the place of the Holy Spirit?
Don’t you see that you can’t live however you please, squandering what God paid such a high price for? The physical part of you is not some piece of property belonging to the spiritual part of you. God owns the whole works. So let people see God in and through your body.
That’s probably the best advice you’ll ever get about sex before marriage—wait until you’re married to do it!
But God also offers a few other tips for avoiding premarital sex:
- Honor your body by taking care of yourself and respecting others
- Have values in life that will help you make wise decisions
- Love yourself first by learning to value yourself as a person
- Spend time with friends and family who will encourage you to remain abstinent
- Connect with a spiritual leader or mentor who can offer guidance
- When tempted, remember that God desires purity in your life and He wants you to be faithful in all areas
These principles may sound basic, but they will have an enormous impact on your life if followed. So when faced with temptation, remember that everyone can make smart decisions when it comes to sex before marriage—and then thank God for His guidance.
What are the benefits of not having sex?
A lot of folks will tell you that waiting for marriage to have sex is old-fashioned, but there is a heap of benefits to consider.
First of all, you’re protecting yourself from sexually transmitted diseases—no matter how much you trust your partner, sometimes a condom just isn’t enough. Besides, a condom is spilling your seed and flushing it into a toilet.
Having the self-control to abstain from sex before marriage also shows that you value yourself and your relationship. You’re showing that you care about your partner deeply and respect their commitment.
Plus—and this is huge—you’ll have something amazing to look forward to on your wedding night. You’ll be able to experience the physical part of love in a safe way, with someone who loves and respects you without guilt. Now, how cool is that?
So if you want to make smart choices in life and reap the rewards, it’s important to remember what’s at stake if you don’t abstain from sex before marriage:
- Your health
- Your self-respect
- A special moment with your partner on one of the most important days of your life.
So, before you don the party hat and streamers and jump into it, ask yourself: Is this worth the momentary gratification?
Will I be able to handle the potential consequences? Will I be ready to face the repercussions that come with the choices I make today?
Now, if you’re wondering about people who saved sex for marriage and still end up in divorce. That comes down to picking the right partner.
The decision to have sex before marriage is a personal choice, but no matter what you choose, just remember that you always have a choice.
Making smart decisions now will give you a better future—and much better sex after the wedding ceremony.