How To Avoid Sex Before Marriage

Quite a handful of people cringe when they are told why they should avoid sex before marriage

Or how to avoid sex before marriage. A lot of thoughts run through their minds like,

“Why do I have to wait until marriage to have sex?’’ 

“We love each other and we’re engaged” 

“It’s proof of our love”

It is beyond doubt that Sex is a beautiful thing.

The reason God made sex for marriage was to help the couple(man and a woman) bond physically, spiritually, and emotionally without shame.  

Another reason God created sex was to keep the sanctity of marriage holy.

Is It Okay To Have Sex Before Marriage?

how to avoid sex before marriage

Sex is more spiritual than it is on the physical. It is the connection of souls.

Human beings are like beautiful gardens and for you to maintain

The beauty of that garden, you have to keep the pest out.

Every time, you open up your body for sex outside marriage,

You are saying to the other person, I trust you to do with my life whatever you please.

So if you’re sleeping with a guy or girl outside of marriage because of their beauty, popularity or in the name of love, you are inviting all kinds of pests into your spirit.

Sex is a blood covenant and a combination of good and evil flows from one partner to the other during sex. A soul tie is forged during sex.

“For the life of the flesh is in the blood:”

Leviticus 17:11a KJV

Another reason sex is powerful is that, if your partner has slept with other people before you, he/she takes on the behaviours and spirits of those sex partners

And transfers them to you and vice-versa. Even if that was your first time, whatever generational curses or illnesses that flow in your bloodline, will be transferred to your partner, and vice-versa.

This is the reason it is not okay to have sex before marriage.

Do you often wonder why your partner shows off one behaviour today and takes up another behaviour the next minutes?

Your boyfriend/girlfriend is manifesting the different characters of the people they’ve slept with previously and they might not even know it.

Do you know why it is harder to break up with someone you’ve had sex with? It’s because you’ve given parts of yourself that can never be gotten back.

Also, when you break up, you still find yourself having sex with your ex-boyfriend/girlfriend in your dreams.

Sorry, that’s not your ex, you are actually having sex with a spirit being who has taken the personality of your ex.

Remember, premarital sex is entering illegally into the spirit realm. Human beings are spirit beings that have a soul and live in a body.

This is why some people can’t explain why things are going wrongs in their lives. Forget the movies, that’s just entertainment. Sex is too powerful a tool to play with.

The movies and music videos tell us that premarital sex is proof of love.

“How do you date someone without checking them out?”

Some others say premarital sex is proof of masculinity and power. “Be a man and get it.”

“Girl you’ve got to show him you love him.”

“If you don’t give him some other girls will.”

Did you know that men are not externally motivated? They are internally motivated. Women are the ones who are externally motivated.

Maybe, You’ve heard of people who had sex before marriage and they seem to be living happily ever after.

Or some friends who have sex but seem fine on the outside.

You only see what’s on the outside but you don’t know what happens behind closed doors.

When we do things God’s way, His blessings, and approval comes on it.

5 Reasons To Wait Until Marriage To Have Sex

5 reasons to wait until marriage to have sex

1.1 You have peace of mind

Saving yourself for marriage is not just for your future husband or wife. It is for your peace and sanity.

You save yourself the stress of confessing one thing or the other to your partner.

You are also not afraid of someone blackmailing you with your mistakes from the past.

1.2 You enjoy the blessing of obedience

The misconceptions that people have about God are; He loves to give rules and punish you for your sins.

Every rule God has ever given to us in the Holy Bible is to save us from trouble and for our peace of mind.

Yes, you might feel aroused which is normal but don’t let a few minutes of pleasure ruin everything.

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

Jeremiah 29:11 NIV

God respects our freedom but our freedom should not become our captivity.

1.3 You Save Time and Money

You’re not afraid of going to the doctor because you don’t have an STD to hide.

You can put your money, time, and energy into other important things.

1.4 You Enjoy Generational Blessings

Some of the problems we have in our world come through misplaced sex. From Bible times until this moment, sex outside an ordained godly marriage has caused many problems.

Some people are unhappy today because they were born outside wedlock.

When we do things God’s way He places His blessings on it and we can pass it on to generations yet unborn.

1.5 You Choose Right

You are not making decisions based on emotions. Your sex drive is not making you make decisions out of pressure.

You can choose what relationships you want or don’t.

Anyone who loves you, must respect your decision, time and must protect you.

To truly love someone you must first understand the love of Jesus Christ and the sacrifice He made

On the cross of Calvary to reconcile us to the Father (Almighty God). He also gave us what satan stole from us.

That is the real definition of love. 

“Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends.”

John 15:13 ESV

1.6 Your Respect Is Intact

You command respect one way or the other. You might not know this or you might even be the least popular person among your peers.

It is better to be right with God than to be right with men who can turn their backs on you at any time.

“This is what the LORD says: “Cursed are those who put their trust in mere humans, who rely on human strength and turn their hearts away from the LORD. They are like stunted shrubs in the desert, with no hope for the future. They will live in the barren wilderness, in an uninhabited salty land. ”

Jeremiah 17:5-6 NIV

What Does The Bible Say About Sex Before Marriage?

The Bible is clear about the consequences of sex before marriage. Aside from the unwanted pregnancy and other blood diseases that would arise.

God’s plan for us is to stand out from the crowd and be holy. You don’t have to bore out of your mind to be holy.

It means we should set the standard for how to live in a crazy world. Not trying to fit in for popularity but choosing to say NO to the behaviours that would destroy our lives in the long run.

Christianity is not a religion it is a lifestyle.

Here are a few scriptures that tell us why you should avoid sex before marriage.

1Thessalonians 4:3-4 AMPC,

For this is the will of God, that you should be consecrated (separated and set apart for pure and holy living): that you should abstain and shrink from all sexual vice,
That each one of you should know how to [c]possess (control, manage) his own [d]body in consecration (purity, separated from things profane) and honor,

1Thessalonians 4:7, AMPC

For God has not called us to impurity but to consecration [to dedicate ourselves to the most thorough purity].

1Corinthians 6:18-20,AMPC

18 Shun immorality and all sexual looseness [flee from impurity in thought, word, or deed]. Any other sin which a man commits is one outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body.

19 Do you not know that your body is the temple (the very sanctuary) of the Holy Spirit Who lives within you, Whom you have received [as a Gift] from God? You are not your own,

20 You were bought with a price [purchased with a [a]preciousness and paid for, [b]made His own]. So then, honour God and bring glory to Him in your body.

Colossians 3:5,AMPC

So kill (deaden, [a]deprive of power) the evil desire lurking in your members [those animal impulses and all that is earthly in you that is employed in sin]: sexual vice, impurity, sensual appetites, unholy desires, and all greed and covetousness, for that is idolatry (the deifying of self and other created things instead of God).

Hebrews 13:4

Let marriage be held in honor (esteemed worthy, precious, of great price, and especially dear) in all things. And thus let the marriage bed be undefiled (kept undishonored); for God will judge and punish the unchaste [all guilty of sexual vice] and adulterous.

I Had Sex Before Marriage Will God Forgive Me?

Most definitely, God didn’t send His only begotten son Jesus Christ to condemn us. We all deserve grace.

God decided to redeem us through the death of Christ. No matter how bad our sins are He is ready to forgive us.

But we must be willing to truly repent and give God the reins of our lives for Him to guide us. But you have to refuse the temptation of going back to your sexual sin.

If you want to surrender your life to Christ, you can say this prayer right now.

Dear father, thank you for this opportunity to start afresh. I confess my sins and I accept Jesus Christ as my Lord and Saviour.

Please, come into my life and let the Holyspirit be my guide. Today by the Blood of Jesus I break off every soul tie(mention the name of the person/people you’ve slept with)

Thank you for accepting back to your family.

For further reading, you can read the following scriptures: John 3:16 AMPC, Ephesians 1, 2 Corinthians 5:17

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