Finding out you have a crush on someone seems exciting. You try to act composed and laugh louder so he can see you.
You enjoy every conversation that is about him, you try to build your world around him and try to carry out an investigative search on everything you need to know about him.
Over time, this can become an obsession when you don’t know how to get over your crush. First, there’s nothing weird about having a crush on a guy or someone beyond your reach.
It’s all part of maturing as a girl.
- WHY CAN’T I FORGET MY CRUSH?
- HOW DO YOU GET OVER SOMEONE YOU LIKE?
- HOW TO DEAL WITH REJECTION FROM YOUR CRUSH.
WHY CAN’T I FORGET MY CRUSH?
The reason you can’t forget your crush is that you still stalk him on social media.
And whenever you notice him around other women, you get angry. You’re having sleepless nights while making a lot of effort to convince yourself that the relationship is meant to be.
The second reason why you can’t forget your crush is your refusal to acknowledge
That he doesn’t want a relationship with you but you’re determined to make it work.
The next factor that prevents you from forgetting your crush is that you may still possess a memento of his (a photo, sweatshirt, perfume, etc.) that triggers memories of him. That’s why?
HOW DO YOU GET OVER SOMEONE YOU LIKE?
1. Get to know him:
How does he treat other people? Most notably, his family members. What are his weaknesses?
Have you worked together with him to attest to his integrity? How does he handle his bad days? How does he react when he is offended or loses a game?
Hope you don’t think fighting and punching his friends after a game is manly and sexy.
If all you see is the good stuff then there’s a problem.
I know nobody is perfect but all these areas are important to consider.
When we have a crush, we often ignore the red flags in the name of love because we believe they will change.
People are much more than what you see on the surface. Ask God(yes please) to reveal His heart to you.
One more thing, what about his breath? Is his body odor offensive? Perhaps after he takes off his shoes. Just saying.🤔🤔
2. Stop Telling the Whole World about him:
If every discussion begins and ends with him, then it will be difficult to let go. Stop trying to convince your friends that you two were destined to be together.
3. Let him meet your parents or mentors:
“Hannah, are you for real?” Yes, dear!
You need other people who can see things objectively and tell you the truth about your crush’s character.
You are the one in love, not them( Not being sarcastic)
There is an African proverb that says “what an elder sees sitting, even when you climb the tallest of trees, you can’t see it.” 🌴
You have to be honest with yourself. Do you want the truth or heartbreak?
4. Ask God for help:
Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.Proverbs 3:5-6
Don’t lean on your understanding.
If you want to get over your crush, God needs to help you
First, God has to restore your heart because of the emotional investment you’ve made in this crush.
Believe me, the relationship was real to you. So your self-worth needs to be built again.
You need to reach the realization that God values you and that you have a bright future ahead of you.
So pray and tell God to take over the situation. Yes please, talk to your heavenly Father He loves you.
I guarantee you will be blown away by the fantastic results.
5. Free them:
Delete his photo, stop thinking, and keep him away from your bed.
God will bring you two together, even if you are in college and feel like you belong together. Do not force it.
HOW TO DEAL WITH REJECTION FROM YOUR CRUSH.
It’s okay to cry. Take time to mourn the relationship and give yourself time to heal.
All the fantasies you’ve had over time won’t just vanish into thin air. You will need time to heal. Take it one day at a time.
You also need to be around people who will encourage your healing. Don’t try to do it alone.
I’m giving you my virtual hug as well.
2. Speak to a counselor:
If you need therapy, go get it. Speak with a reputable counselor; they will be happy to walk alongside you as you overcome the situation.
3. Move On:
Don’t put your life on hold because of a guy. Go after and achieve your goals. Imagine if our survival was entirely dependent on a crush on a man.
Please remember that getting over a crush takes time; it doesn’t happen overnight.
3. Look out for the triggers and prevent them:
This is not the time to watch sad Rom-Coms and listen to sad love songs.
You’re only hurting yourself. If you can go on vacation, do it. Don’t just sit around and be sad. Keep in mind that misery enjoys company.
4. Redirect your energy:
I’m sure there are dreams or goals youdesire to attain? Go out and pursue it.
What sport do you enjoy? What are your hobbies? Get on with it. Life is too short to sit and cry.
If today was the last day on earth, how would you spend it?
5. Close the gap:
There is a space in every human life that only God can fill.
This void can only be filled by finding your identity in Christ, developing a relationship with Him, and studying the Bible.
6. Get an accountability partner or partners:
These could be your siblings or someone you trust who would keep you in check or call you out (not on social media) when your emotions are getting the best of you.
Don’t beat yourself up for having a crush. I know it can be lonely sometimes.
It happens to the best of us, but we overcame it. You are beautiful, strong, and intelligent.
God’s got you!
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