Have you ever struggled with comparing your looks to others? I have! 🙋♀️No thanks to social media, particularly Instagram, where people are made to feel inferior by other people’s photoshopped images.🤣
Ninety-nine percent of the people I know have had their fair share of struggles with self-comparison and other insecurities. Even Michelle Obama, in her latest book, The Light We Carry,
She spoke at a panel on the Revolt podcast hosted by Angie Martinez about how she doubted herself during the release of her first book and how her husband Barack Obama helped her get over her self-doubt. OMG😮
Together, sis, holding each other’s hands, we’re going to walk through how to stop comparing your looks to others. You’re not alone.
Why Do I Compare Myself So Much To Others
I’ll begin by stating that “we only compare products; we don’t compare people.” We sometimes invent excuses for why we think it’s important to ensure we are not falling behind our peers when we compare ourselves to others.
People in today’s society work themselves to the bone doing things they cannot afford just to keep up with social expectations.
Some parents are sending their kids to schools they can barely afford. There are other crops of people who are trying to live like some reality show stars. They lose money as a result, and they also experience heartache and disappointment.
We’re constantly worried about things that are beyond our control. rather than making the most of what we already have and what is within our control.
In the past, I would have thought that being born to celebrity parents would have made my life easier. In hindsight, I have realized that the rich also cry. My parents may not be perfect, but I’m thankful for them (it could have been worse).
How Do I Stop Comparing Myself To Other Pretty Girls
Girl! First, you are one of a kind, in case nobody has ever told you! The reason you need to believe this about yourself is that you don’t want to become a bitter adult who is constantly seeking external validation from the wrong people.
You have to first see the good and your value in you before asking anyone to believe in you.
What is your definition of beauty? Is it a slim waistline, 5ft 6inch height, straight hair, and a pointed nose? My dear that’s social media’s definition of beauty.
Girl! I used to be envious of people who had these characteristics in high school. I made an effort to get along with them, but some of them had reckless lifestyles, so I just didn’t fit in.
On the other hand, some of the girls who had these attractive features were insecure because they wished no one would make fun of their height or thinness. Bomber!
Until we realize that the true definition of beauty is who we are on the inside and behind closed doors, not how we appear to others. We will continue to be at the mercy of people’s expectations of us.
I’m not talking about dressing shabby and not caring about your appearance. Remember you have to dress the way you want to be addressed.
Can you say, “I am beautiful, fearfully, and wonderfully made” with me? Thank you! Don’t expect anyone to love you when you have no love for yourself. God made us uniquely different.
How Do I Stop Comparing Myself and Jealous
Permit me to ask again: Do you consider yourself unique, beautiful, and intelligent? I hope so. Do you believe you have value and bring value to the table?
If you don’t believe it, it would be difficult for you to stop comparing yourself to other people. Another way to stop comparing yourself to other people is to know that your identity is in God.
I know people don’t like to talk about God. When we accept that we’re created in the image and likeness of the Almighty God the creator of the whole world.
That Hw fashioned you into your mother’s womb. This is the first step to breaking the yoke of low self-esteem. Believe me, I have been there many times.
Another helpful way to get over self-comparison is to know your triggers. It is best to deal with anything that triggers you, whether it be social media, comments made about you by others, or a medical issue.
You must have the self-control to put aside your distractions and stop acting as if the world depends on your constant social media use. Unless you use the platform for legitimate business, concentrate on the crucial things.
Avoid spending the new year with people who make you feel bad about yourself and to whom you have to prove yourself all the time.
Have someone hold you responsible for your words and deeds, preferably not someone you would bully to get your way.
How Do I Stop Getting Compared
This part can be difficult if you live with people who try to compare you to your siblings or other members of your family. I can only advise you to always present yourself authentically.
Secondly, you cannot please everybody no matter how hard you try. People can only try to judge you based on their limited knowledge about you.
The only person who truly knows us for who we are is God. Yes, I said it. It is only a manufacturer that truly knows his products. This is the reason most equipment comes with a manual.
Our manual is what God says about us in the Bible in Ephesians Chapter 1-14 I would request that you take the time to read through this text and ask God to open your eyes about who you truly are.
If someone compares you to another person, politely tell them that you don’t appreciate being compared. If you would like to surrender your life to Jesus Christ I must say a big congratulations to you because this is the best decision any man can make.
You just have to say the prayer below and with sincerity of the heart and I’m sure you won’t regret it. This has been a life-changing experience for me.