Dealing with Church Hurt In 5 Unique Steps

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I wish I could tell you that you would never be hurt by people in the church. That would be a lie!

The church is a hospital where all kinds of people come in for healing from the Chief Medical Officer(Jesus Christ).

Some get their healing immediately while others take a while to heal. With that in mind, you’ll need patience and the Holyspirit when dealing with people because offenses will come.

One of the ways to deal with church hurt is intentionally let go of unrealistic expectations we place on people.

What is church hurt

CHURCH HURT is the offense done against you by the members of a church. This could be an intentional act or not.

How to overcome church hurt

Be Willing to forgive

Then He said to the disciples, “It is impossible that no offences should come, but woe to him through whom they do come! Luke 17:1

We’re created as social beings and in the course of interacting it is safe to say that misunderstanding is bound to occur.

Did you know, that the same Timothy or Susan at school are still the same people in church every week?

So will you stop church because of them? They didn’t lay their lives for you on the cross of cavalry neither did they shed their blood. Instead, Jesus Christ did all that for you and me.

Learn how to forgive someone who hurt you emotionally

Why give people such power to determine your happiness. Give it to God and let Him heal your heart.

It takes a lot of energy to hate and less to forgive. The people who hurt us often don’t care about your feelings.

The first step to our freedom is to ask God to heal our hearts and teach us to forgive because there is no perfect church only a perfect God.

Don’t leave the church

Ah! Ah! Here lies another problem, leaving a church without being properly guided is a waste of time.

Every church has its issues and the truth is if you’re not healed from your previous hurt, going to another church would only make you suspicious of the people in your new environment.

Only move to another church when you’ve heard from God and you’ve sought godly counsel.

There is power in corporate prayers because you get to encounter God’s grace dimension and God’s gifts on different people. Worshipping God online just to avoid certain people isn’t the solution either

Be open to correction

Please dearie, in other to overcome the church hurt you must also be willing to admit when you’re wrong.

Hun! hun! Hold up, don’t try to justify your wrongs. Let’s be honest we all are works in progress because we are human beings with flaws. So be willing to apologize when you are wrong too.

Seek Godly counsel

Aside from praying for God to heal your heart, you can seek counsel from other faith-filled believers.

Who is willing to pray with you and guide you when you want to overcome the church hurt.

While seeking godly counsel, It is important to attack the problem and not the individual. That can be hard but thank God the Holy Spirit can help us achieve that.

Let it go

Too many people get stuck in the problem and it becomes hard for them to overcome the church hurt.

This has happened to me many times, and I can tell you that it is not a pleasant experience. The sleepless nights (I love my sleep by God’s grace), emotional torture, and hindered prayers, just to mention a few.


Church hurt is almost inevitable because you’re interacting with people. It is better to let God enlarge our capacity to forgive even when it’s hard.

My question to you is what tip from this post would you apply? Or how have you dealt with hurt in church?

2 thoughts on “Dealing with Church Hurt In 5 Unique Steps”

  1. Adeola Esther Ogunsusi

    In as much as we want to let it go,it is not easy but we have to. Note also that letting will not happen at once,its a gradual process,if it warrants you staying away for a while please do so. Thank you

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