Any time the topic of not kissing and cuddling before marriage is brought up, there is always a heated discussion.
Some people think that as long as you’ve found the one, kissing and snuggling are okay.
Others contend that as long as there is no intercourse, exchanging a kiss or a cuddle is acceptable.
Guys! Let’s go back to the first moments of human creation. God wanted to have fellowship with us to establish a bond that would endure forever.
But the devil’s intention is to make us sin and cause eternal separation from God.
Did you know that sex is not the first thing that comes to mind when we look up the definition of intimacy in the dictionary?
The top on the list is creating an emotional and mental link that entails getting to know the other person outside of the bed.
Chaos results when this order is reversed, and we start to justify why sex is proof of love. Have you ever wondered why the priest/pastor usually says,
“You can now kiss your bride”? It’s because it’s considered to be the initial time this kind of activity is taking place.
The reason why many relationships fail is that we move too fast as soon as we are in love. We take away God from the relationship
We lose our individuality in a bid to conform to what the other partner likes and become heartbroken when the relationship doesn’t work out.
When we enter a relationship with an incorrect mindset, we would abuse the purpose of the relationship and exploit the other person.
Dating is not for mating but for collecting data.Michelle Micknney Hammond
Is it okay to kiss before marriage?
If your relationship our God-centered why is it difficult to practice self-control? Look! the lie that the enemy sells to us is that sex is the end all be all in a relationship.
Only to get married and all the fuzzy feelings go out the window. Now we have to live with the repercussion of our disobeying God’s order.
The Bible clearly states that we should avoid every appearance of evil.
Abstain from all appearance of evil.1Thessalonians 5:22
Just in case you didn’t know, Kissing is only a rehearsal for sex. When kissing your boyfriend your hands will want to find expression on each other’s body. lol
Your breast also presses against the guy’s chest as you kiss.
The brain records that act as a preparation for sexual intercourse. Give it some time and you will have penetrative sex.
Your relationship should advance you as a person, not take advantage of you.
If your basis for kissing is because the Bible says we should kiss each other with a holy kiss,
then you need to go and do an extensive study on that scripture.
Disadvantages of kissing before Marriage
1. You’ve become an enemy of God because you are breaking his rules.
2. You downplay your sense of value-
Men are hunters they don’t like anything that just falls cheaply into their hands.
While you think you are doing him a favor by kissing him, you are giving him a reason to go after someone who will help him raise his standards for a relationship.
3. You cannot boldly declare what you stand for as a child of God.
What example are we showing the world when we are breaking the very law we are supposed to uphold.
If we want to keep the commandment of God we must do it 100% and not just the convenient part.
4. You’re building your relationship on a faulty foundation.
When you don’t have self-control you are training to be an adulterer in the making.
5. You’re risking the future of the next generation-
A single act of disobedience to God’s word can have severe consequences check the Bible.
When you break the edge the serpent will bite. King David had sex with another man’s wife and killed her husband.
In a bid to cover his sin, he committed more atrocities, which led to his child’s death and other household problems.
If you’re currently sleeping with your boyfriend, in the eyes of God,
you are not married because you haven’t exchanged your vows yet. Sis, he is not yet your husband.
Is kissing and romancing a sin in a relationship?
Yes, kissing and romancing is a sin before God and a sin against your body.
The reason why there is so much confusion around this topic is that the people we look up to as mentors,
are engaging in this act and they seem to get away with it.
When it comes to relationships, our first guide should be the principles laid out in the word of God.
Aside from mentors, the reason kissing and romancing is a sin in a relationship is that,
In the eyes of God, you are unmarried. How would you feel if you saw your husband kissing another man’s wife? Bad I suppose.
Until you have said your vows before God and man you are not legally his wife.
The reason breakups are painful is that you’ve given your mouth and body to someone you thought was deserving only to be served breakfast.
Again, sharing a kiss or a romantic embrace is not evidence of love. Get to know who you are in Christ.
So that you won’t be caught arguing over sin. A sin would always be a sin no matter how we try to paint it.
There is a level of the word of God that you will know that such things don’t become topics for discussion.
You won’t even need to ask God because you already know his answer.
Is it okay to make love before Marriage?
Causal sex leads to causality. It is not okay to make love before marriage.
It is also not okay to live with your boyfriend before marriage because fornication is the preparation stage for adultery.
Ladies, please never believe that you can tie a man down with sex.
One of the reasons we have insecure people in marriages is that the foundation of the relationship was built on premarital sex
Now they don’t even like each other that is why an open marriage has become an option.
When we don’t practice self-control now life will be harder.
God who created sex for marriage tells us to flee fornication.
But the one who is united and joined to the Lord is one spirit with Him. 18 Run away from sexual immorality [in any form, whether thought or behavior, whether visual or written]. Every other sin that a man commits is outside the body, but the one who is sexually immoral sins against his own body. 19 Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is within you, whom you have [received as a gift] from God, and that you are not your own [property]?1 Corinthians 6:18 AMP
Don’t try to figure it out just run.🏃 because the longer you stay in that situation the more vulnerable you are.
Don’t be deceived a lot of girls are still saving themselves for marriage.
Just because they are not talking about it doesn’t mean it isn’t done.
Some girls even pretend not to be virgins so that they won’t be raped or mocked.
Yes, you might know some people saved themselves for marriage but still ended up divorced.
If you lack knowledge about how kingdom marriage 💍 works, the marriage will break.
If God is the anchor of that relationship, despite the challenges it will stand.
“Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice(B) is like a wise man who built his house on the rock. 25 The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house; yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock. 26 But everyone who hears these words of mine and does not put them into practice is like a foolish man who built his house on sand. 27 The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell with a great crash.”Matthew 7:24-27 NIV